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Lenten Immerse: Hospitality

Can you think of a time when you received hospitality from someone? Maybe it was an expression of kindness, a welcoming embrace, a warm meal, or a listening ear. Perhaps it took the form of someone who supported you when you didn’t feel you deserved it, or a new friend in an unfamiliar place. 

Take a moment to live in that memory and soak in the feelings their hospitality provided you. Warmth, love, acceptance, solidarity, community, and empathy are some of the feelings that can stem from hospitality.We practice and receive hospitality more often than we may realize. We find hospitality in the greatest commandment passage, Matthew 22:36-40, which calls us to love our neighbor as ourselves. 36 “Teacher, which is the most important commandment in the law of Moses?”37 Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ 38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.” (NLT)Most of us are familiar with this commandment which calls us to love our neighbors. Let’s reexamine this well-known passage through the lens of hospitality. When we open the toolbox of hospitality, we bring out such tools as empathy, altruism, open-handed generosity. We discard self-interest, judgment, and inaction. Empathy is the key to hospitality as it forces us to place ourselves in the shoes of our neighbors. Empathy creates a deeper understanding of why we extend hospitality to others. When we practice empathy in hospitality, we build solid foundations for relationships and community connections. Take a moment and view this take on the hospitality tool, empathy.

Practicing Hospitality

Examining how we practice hospitality is integral to enhancing how we practice Christian Community Development. The Immerse Chapter on Listening to the Community informs us on how to practice listening, another tool in the hospitality toolbox.Listening thrives on living room couches and front porch conversations; through neighborhood potlucks and playdates. You can’t expect to fit “listen to the community” into your empty calendar slots. Real listening happens over time as we build relationships with one another.Listening to and empathizing with our neighbors

  • affirms the value of people’s stories
  • manifests fruits of the spirit
  • lays down our power
  • builds relationships through solidarity
  • incarnates Christ’s hospitality
  • centralizes our neighbor

Reflections

Practicing servanthood through hospitality is a radical task that Jesus lived and tasked us. It values everyone and builds kingdom community. It is an essential, repeated commandment that we must learn through discipline and repetition. Contemplate the following questions central to practicing hospitality:

  • How are you welcoming your neighbor without judgment?
  • With whom are you willing to practice hospitality? Consider your answer as revealing those needing inclusion.
  • Which tools are used the most in your hospitality toolbox? Which are in need of repair or sharpening/honing?

Hospitality Meditation or Prayer

Meditate on the following verse and recount that you too were once a stranger. Ask God to speak to you as you consider practicing the instructions given in the Word:

Leviticus 19:33-34 (NKJV) says:33 ‘And if a stranger dwells with you in your land, you shall not mistreat him. 34The stranger who dwells among you shall be to you as one born among you, and you shall love him as yourself; for you were strangers in the land of Egypt: I am the Lord your God.This Lenten season, use this prayer to encourage the practice of hospitality…Most High God, create in me the tools of your hospitality and love for my neighbor. Open my heart and eyes to those I would not ordinarily think of extending your love towards. Remove judgment from my mind and use me as an extension of your acceptance and love. Give me an open hand of generosity and a strong voice to speak with those who have a need for hospitality within my community and country. I praise you for offering me your grace and unconditional love. Use me to build up your kingdom community.

 

We all want to believe there are social safety nets that will prevent our most vulnerable from falling through the cracks created by poverty and economic insecurity. But, the reality is that almost half of Americans could not cover an emergency expense of $400 or less. We live in a time of great economic isolation for which safety nets no longer exist. Engaging with our neighbors in practices of Generosity, Listening and Hospitality is critical for Common Change members –   Read more now

A Thank You Note

Common Change receives its fair share of thank you notes and we occasionally share them as a way to remind us all to do small things with great love and how that simple act can have a ripple effect.

Anyway, thank you for what you do on a daily basis to change people’s lives. This was such a blessing to Christina and changed her life in such a profound way. And she will use this house to bless others so the circle just keeps going.

Here’s the back story

Cristina lives in Central America in a modest house on the side of a mountain. She spends her days visiting the poor and elderly, helping meet their basic needs. She applied to a government program that would build a more stable house for her and her family, but the government funds would only cover half the cost. A friend in the U.S., who happened to be a member of a Common Change group, requested the remaining funds to construct a decent and safe home for Cristina and her family. And in turn, in her new home, Cristina hosted her neighbors and those in need from her community.

How often do we wonder what a person would do with the money if we could give it? If I’m honest, I assume they’ll spend it frivolously on things that I’ve determined they don’t need. What a humbling, convicting realization than to see a person who receives generosity turning around to bless others. We think we are just helping a friend, but we may never know how many people were helped because of the one person we touched.

Giving, Receiving, & Vulnerability

How do I know that a gift given will be used the right way is a question that we get asked when people are exploring Common Change. Here’s a story of a recent gift given by a Common Change group that wasn’t used in the way that the group originally discussed.

Jasmine knows that when it rains, it pours. First, the sole family vehicle broke down. Around the same time, Jasmine’s husband Ricky lost his job, and with it their only income stream. Fortunately, he was re-hired a few weeks later, but the temporary hit took a big toll. The car was still out of commission, so Ricky had to take a Lyft to work. The bills didn’t stop coming when the income was interrupted, so some days they had to choose between food and getting Ricky to work. And in those weeks when he missed shifts, his paychecks were short. The bills kept piling up and rent couldn’t be paid on time. Before the car died, Jasmine would have brought Ricky to work and then the kids to school. Now, Ricky was able to hop in his co-worker’s truck to and from the job site, and Jasmine would walk the kids to school. But on rainy days, neither Jasmine nor her kids wanted to walk the half mile and get soaked. Cassie, another mom from Jasmine’s kids’ school, offered to bring the kids so they wouldn’t miss school.

Because there was something of a relationship there, and because Cassie knew about the car troubles, she was able to activate the generosity of her Common Change group in requesting funds to help fix Jasmine and Ricky’s car. That in itself was a brave and kind gesture, accompanying Jasmine into the uncertainty and stress of the situation. But once that door was opened, it was Jasmine whose courage really shined. She set her pride aside and, recognizing the hand reaching out to offer help, took the invitation to give voice to what she really needed. The car was still a big need, but the bills that went unpaid would have caused bigger problems than having to walk to school in the rain. Jasmine and Ricky were facing utility shut-offs and possible eviction from their apartment. But they heard the voice offering comfort and support and they responded. Their faith to ask for what they needed is an example for all of us. They received the initial gift with humility and gratitude, never having expected that the spiraling circumstances would have left them as low as they were, but also as surrounded with community as they felt. They didn’t stop there, though. They used their voice to see if, just if, there was even more abundance available to meet their needs. They could have stayed quiet, feeling they could not ask for more after having gotten a little bit. They could have kept their needs to themselves, fearful of the inevitable desperation that would soon swallow them whole. But instead, they started by just asking. They stepped out in faith to see if possibly the source of goodness which touched them once was still present to listen and
respond.

Sometimes, maybe often times, the money we give gets used toward something other than what we thought it would. There is something scary but also liberating about giving up control over where your money goes. We lift it up, trusting God and entrusting its stewardship to the wisdom of the group. By the time the funds arrive at their destination, there may be another need that pops up. We take the step of responding to needs we see, but we are often reminded that the person with the need can best identify the solution.

Neighborly Economics: A Way Towards the Exchange of Gifts by Peter Block

In other times, our culture, our way of being with each other, the way we spend our days, were constructed by Emperors, Popes, Generals and Public Servants.

Our cultural way of being is now constructed by the Private Sector, organizations of the free market consumer economy. The narrative of this economy is that productivity, convenience, scale, speed and cost are the dominant values and constitute success. These values, born out of the modern economy, have now spread into our souls and blanket any endeavor, including efforts in service of humanity and the common good. Best described as the tools of empire, this is a modern re-performance of Pharaoh’s Egypt.

We cannot end poverty, end the diaspora, terminate slavery, produce health, care for the planet, create well-being or end violence using the narrative and tools of empire. Our task it to create ways of being together based on an alternative economy which confront and re-frames this dominant economic narrative. Thus the word Economics in the title.  

If we depart from the dominant narrative of consumption, we need a place to go. The Exodus into the wilderness away from Pharaoh is a metaphor for our journey. When viewed from within the context of empire economics, the wilderness appears to be a place of no visible means of life support. Inconvenient. What was discovered in the wilderness was the means of life support which we can call neighborliness. From God. From other immigrants. It was a gift minded community. It was based on associational life. Out of this came commandments of neighborliness. Paralleled in Islam were Sharia laws banning usury and devoting one third of the land to the common good. Thus the word Neighborly in the title.

All of this calls for something radical. The word, radical, asks that we reimagine the root of the matter. The habit of our immersion in the consumer economy often drives us to think in terms of the methodologies of the dominant culture. To become practical, goal oriented, measurement minded, desirous of scale, time pressured, asking how long will this take and where is it working. This is the wish to return to Egypt.

Neighborly economy means we operate as if we have enough time, begin with a possibility, accept an uncertain future, see the value of small, make relatedness and cooperation central, and are willing to invent the way.

(This article was originally published on https://www.restorecommons.com)

When the Safety Net Isn’t There

We all want to believe there are social safety nets that will prevent our most vulnerable from falling through the cracks created by poverty and economic insecurity. But, the reality is that almost half of Americans could not cover an emergency expense of $400 or less. We live in a time of great economic isolation for which safety nets no longer exist. Read more now

 

The Table of Collective Abundance

You might know people like Charlie and June. They’re the ones who are always giving, always sharing, always opening their home, asking what others may need. They’ll open up about their needs if asked, but they don’t usually put the spotlight on their own struggles. But stay close enough to Charlie and June, and you may get the opportunity to see something amazing. The moment when the caregivers become the recipients of abundant generosity brings an unexpected joy. Being able to give reminds each of us of our shared humanity; it reminds us of the vulnerability of merely being alive. We all know the saying that it’s better to give than to receive, and in this way, Charlie and June get to share the joy of giving by being on the other end for a change. Common Change provides the opportunity to experience that joy, inviting all to the table of collective abundance.

Finding Relationships Beyond The Headlines

Do you ever read the news or scan your social media feeds or even just step outside and feel the weight of all that seems to be going wrong in the world? You know in your heart that not all is lost, and for all the negativity and despair that seems to grow louder every day, there’ve got to be people out there who remind you of what’s good and true. Common Change is one place where you can connect with others to make a positive, tangible difference in the lives of people all around the world.

Behind the headlines of conflict in the Middle East are real people trying to get through each day with their real lives. They want to work to pay their bills to feed their families and see their kids off to school. The geopolitical realities present unique challenges, but at the end of the day, they’re just like you and me. However, those daily, often mundane, realities can feel so far away from us and our desire to make a difference. What if I told you that even if you were connected to one person who was connected to someone in need, you could be a big part of that person’s redemption story? My friend Shaun met Hassan when he studied abroad during college. Somehow, thanks to the strength of long-distance loyalty and pre-whats app calling cards, they have stayed in touch all these years. Hassan could tell the friendship was genuine from the first time he met Shaun. Not too long ago, in one of their conversations, Hassan seemed discouraged, and Shaun knew things were not going well. It was not like Hassan to dwell on his challenges, but because he trusted Shaun, he shared with him some of what was going on. He had been laid off, and his family was living on his wife’s nursing salary. Two of his four kids were in university and were at risk of not being able to pay school fees. The fact that Hassan had to sneak across the border into Israel every day to increase his chances of finding employment only added to the drama of the situation. Shaun wanted to honor his friend’s dignity, but also knew that he needed some help. Shaun tapped into the shared resources of his Common Change group, and the funds to meet Hassan’s needs were approved in just a few days.

After the money reached Hassan, he called Shaun to share his gratitude. “Shaun,” Hassan started, while holding back tears, “I’m just amazed at this gift. I have been thanking God that there are still good people in the world who would take care of others no matter where they are from.” Shaun was also nearly in tears at this point as his heart swelled to know that the love he felt for his friend could be demonstrated by the generosity of those who might never meet Hassan. Indeed the world is not so big after all and is full of people who want to do good.

We Are More Than Our Worse Moments

Whenever I see someone standing at the corner with a sign asking for help, the first thing I want to ask is “What’s your story and how did you get here?” I know they are more than what this moment tells me, defined not just by what they seem to lack. Inevitably the light turns green, and I drive away, and I’m left to wonder until the next distraction occupies my mind. Their sign may say they want some change or food or a cigarette, but I can only imagine how powerful it might be if they were given a chance to identify their own needs and desires at that moment. That happened recently in a parking lot in North Dakota. Billy was coming out from the grocery store, and he noticed a woman in distress in her car. He didn’t have any grand plans or heroic intentions that day, but he made himself available and open to whatever might come next. He learned this woman’s name was Stacey, and her family had become far-flung because of trouble finding jobs and now she was on the verge of eviction. Without knowing how things would turn out, Billy started by offering to buy her a cup of coffee.

That small gesture opened the door to trust and a willingness on both sides to face the bigger challenges together. Stacey opened up about her marriage and her family, the joys and challenges. Billy opened up about his life as well. The real turning point came with a powerful question from Billy. “Stacey,” he said, “if you could do anything right now to improve this situation, what would you do?” See Billy knew something that Stacey didn’t. Billy knew that he was connected to a group of people who had been steadily pooling their resources for such an opportunity as this, unbeknownst to any of them that that particular moment would happen right there in that North Dakota strip mall.

They were tapping into a bigger story, and while Stacey sure didn’t consider herself lucky when the day began, she would soon find out that she was in the right place at just the right time. Billy resisted prescribing to Stacey what she needed. He avoided making his generosity the center of the conversation by asking her what she really wanted. He acknowledged and affirmed that although she was “in need,” she also possessed the dignity to make whatever decisions would be best for her family. Billy wouldn’t have been able to do this if he was operating as an individual at that moment. Because he knew there were resources behind him that he alone could not have produced, he knew that there was collective strength and courage to help Stacey face her challenges.